Another Sad Day

Today our little community buried another parent of a high school student.  Two in two months is more than enough.  Sadly, our children are learning that life is not fair, that mistakes can be fatal and that supporting each other can be a much-needed gift.

I hate how fast innocence can be stripped and how quickly life can irrevocably change.

My heart aches…

21 responses to “Another Sad Day

  1. I’m so sorry to hear this sad story. Our hearts and thoughts are with your community.

    Many hugs,
    Martina & Marissa

  2. Oh, that is very sad. I remember the first time that particular reality really hit home. When I was in high school, one of our football stars was killed crossing the train tracks in his car.

    The story goes that he was upset and distracted after coming from his girlfriend’s house; she had just broken up with him.

    Everybody cried for days, and that’s been more than 50 years ago, so you can see how it sticks with a person.

    • It is tragic and sad and a memory that never leaves, no matter how old we get. When I was in highschool, one of the boys in my grade had an accident on the way to school and his best friend was killed. That year definitely felt different–and still does.

      Thanks for sharing your experience with us.

  3. I’m so sorry, Cat. How are their kids?

    • It will be a tough year. Both of the kids were in marching band and both of the parents (one a mom and one a dad) were killed in motorcycle accidents. I’m quite certain this small group of 60 tight-knit kids will never be fans of motorcycles, drag racing, texting while driving, etc. Hopefully, attending two funerals in two months will give them pause before doing anything stupid behind the wheel.

  4. Sorry to hear this. Tragedy affects the whole community; tough way to bring everyone together.

  5. There really is nothing to say other than I am sorry for your loss and the communities.

    The reality of mistakes potentially being fatal is one I know all too well…since September of last year I have lost three high school classmates, three of which involved either too little sleep, intoxication and/or just poor judgment. It’s been about a month since the last one passed…

    I can’t even imagine how this has effected their children…

    Once again I am sorry 😦

    • Elisa,

      It sounds like you’re going through a bad stretch of your own. Thanks for sharing your experiences and know that you’re in my thoughts and prayers.


  6. I’m so sorry to hear of the loss, and that it echoes from so recently. Saying prayers for all involved, L.

    • Layinda,

      It’s been tough on them. What I find interesting is that most teens will experience a loss via a classmate drinking and driving or a grandparent. The fact that two families have had one parent each tragically, unexpectedly and unavoidably taken from them is something that most kids don’t ever go through at this age. That it was two in two months within a group of 60 kids is unbelievable. If ever kids will question and evaluate their relationships with their parents, it would be these.

      Thanks for your warm wishes.

  7. I’m so sorry, and right when they need parents the most. But a sad part of life. My husband used to have a motorcycle and I loved riding on it. It was exhilarating. I loved it and I would do it again, but always wore a helmet though he didn’t, (living in a state that didn’t require it). There’s something about the mad rush of wind and all the wonderful, changing smells full in your face that riding in a car with the windows open can’t duplicate. The open road, etc. etc. and all the reasons people write songs about the experience. But still….two in two months from a small community is tough.

    • Yvonne, I grew up on the back of a motorcycle–in LA and Seattle no less–and like you, love riding them. But, this has definitely given me pause. We own a motorcycle and it’s always been a treat for my DH and I to go for quick rides. After these events, I can honestly say, however, that I don’t think I will ever feel comfortable on the back of a bike again. It’s just too close to home.

  8. As one of your more literate friends (not!), I just want to say the topic of this post makes me want to throw up.

    No matter the circumstance losing someone love is difficult. The shared experience of the kids and their collective loss will shape their lives for decades. Hopefully that influence will show up in a multitude of good ways. Those kids (your own especially) who know you well will be blessed by your love, support and kind, loving words in the next weeks, months and years.


    • Thanks, Bec.

      It’s been hard watching Eldest attend two funerals in such short succession. Harder still knowing that such young children have lost such a vital and wonderful part of their lives–a much loved parent. These kids will definitely have a different perspective on things than other kids who are lucky enough not to go through this–personally or via their friendships.

      hugs back~

  9. I’m very sorry to hear this. Those poor kids 😦

  10. Oh Cat, I’m so sorry to hear about this horrible news. My thoughts & prayers are with your community and that teenager’s family…
    “I hate how fast innocence can be stripped and how quickly life can irrevocably change.”
    I know what you mean, I hate it too…

  11. Oh Cat, I’m so sorry to hear about this. Please know I’m praying for you and your community.

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